Monthly Archives: December 2006

Life changes – not always for the better

Last night I went up to see my aunt after my music lesson.  She had already been tucked into bed so I didn’t stay long.  Lately she hasn’t been doing too well.  Her bones are fragile and one of them collapsed, as vertebrae in a osteoporotic women tend to do.  So for awhile she has been in pain and on bed rest just getting up into the wheelchair to go to meals, etc.  

 

Last night when I walked in, she commented that it was Monday, and how was the service at church.  That comment was a good sign that she was feeling better.  Two days before she was confused about who I was.  

 

She misses getting out.  It has been a constant in her life up to now.  

 

Last night she was also lamenting that she had no gifts to give, nothing to wrap, nothing to give away for Christmas.  She has given so much away all her life – another part of her that she can no longer sustain.  

 

I am hoping she will be well enough to get out for Christmas.  She is tiny and light enough that any of my boys could just pick her up and carry her so we will make every effort for her to spend Christmas Eve with us.

 

In watching her, I wonder – what will my last days be like?  Will my friends be around?  Will I be visited?  Will I even know?  What will be left of who I am?  How much of who we are is wrapped up in the functioning of our brains?  

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Listening to the beat

Tonight we are going to listen to the drummer in the family.  We have a table reserved at one of the most notorious bars in town – noisy for sure. Christian is drumming with the Jason Moon Band and since we have not had the pleasure, we are going to go and see what he can do. 

Then tomorrow he goes back to Saskatoon where he has a real job waiting. 

I guess he makes OK money at this drumming stuff that he loves buyt if one were to count all the practice times and travel times, not to count set up and take down, I suspect it would be more like minimum wage.  He’s happy I guess.  Or young and foolish.  Or both.

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Dilemmas

You know how it is when you are faced with a dilemma – all sorts of time is spent thinking about it without a lot of helpful results?  I have been engaged in this sort of thing this week. 

 

We have kids that attend our church.  Not a huge number but some.  Some come with their parents and then a few less come just from the neighbourhood.  “Walk ins” as we would say at my office, meaning that they come for what they need but don’t have a real connection to the rest of the people who attend.  In actual fact, they may come for the cookies – what self respecting kid would pass up free cookies and juice on a Sunday morning when mom and dad or whomever cares for them are still sleeping.  We also offer them a lot of good music prayer and a sermon but, you know, I doubt that those things really draw them in. 

 

You know how it is when you are faced with a dilemma – all sorts of time is spent thinking about it without a lot of helpful results?  I have been engaged in this sort of thing this week. 

 

We have kids that attend our church.  Not a huge number but some.  Some come with their parents and then a few less come just from the neighbourhood.  “Walk ins” as we would say at my office, meaning that they come for what they need but don’t have a real connection to the rest of the people who attend.  In actual fact, they may come for the cookies – what self respecting kid would pass up free cookies and juice on a Sunday morning when mom and dad or whomever cares for them are still sleeping.  We also offer them a lot of good music prayer and a sermon but, you know, I doubt that those things really draw them in. 

 

The kids from the neighbourhood and the kids attached to parents who attend do not really like to be confined to a small space it seems.  And a few of the kids may be FAE or FAS and can’t help but not be attentive.  They seem fine with that but we adults have other ideas.  We like kids who sit still and listen.  We like kids who take their little craft paper and complete it without needing a lot of help and then actually take it home gloating over their achievements to their parents, maybe reciting the Bible verse as they hand it to mom or dad. 

 

Instead of this we have kids whose parents we never see.  We get no help from them if the kids run off and spend the class time in the washroom. (if we sent them to the washroom I am sure they would not want to go there, but who can argue with a kid who says he’s got to go?)

 

We have trouble with burn out.  No, not the kids, the adults who decide to take on the responsibility of teaching these kids stuff about Jesus.  I AM BURNT OUT TRYING TO FIND ADULTS TO HELP! 

 

That is one of my duties. 

 

So this Sunday, I don’t know.  I suspect I will be in that room with the kids.  Because I do care about them and I do want them to learn about Jesus.  I wonder if they most times think of Jesus as just another adult.  I doubt they understand how much he cares about them.  I doubt they know how much I care about them – especially when I am desperately trying to keep their attention with stern words.

 

O God help us. 

 

This morning I was reading in Mark 6 the story of Jesus feeding all the people that came to listen to him.  What struck me most about the story was not the feeding part, or the amount left over.  It was the fact that Jesus and his friends were tired.  Jesus knew his disciples needed a rest and so he says to go with him to a quiet place.  They take off together across the lake but instead of quiet on the other shore, they have a huge crowd waiting.  Jesus and his disciples need to debrief but out of compassion, Jesus puts the needs of the crowd first and spends the time instead teaching the people many things.  Maybe this taught the disciples a whole lot about service and the kind of life style they were in for.  I think the feeding part also taught them a huge lesson – that no matter what they needed, God would provide in abundance.

 

I know that lesson.  God has been teaching me that one too for years now. 

 

Surely he will provide for me and for the kids who need to listen to him teaching them many things.

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