Daily Archives: December 22, 2003

A bad end to a perfect day

Last night we had one of those really awful parenting nights.  We got home from our party at the park – with the girls and all their friends.  And we were set to babysit Kieran but the girls had plans to have friends over.  We knew we would need them to be entertaining their friends in different parts of our domain so Grace and co. went up to the loft of the garage while Sara and co. went up to the loft of the house.  TV watching going on in the house and just “hanging out” in the garage. 

At about 10:30 I was driving Kieran back home when I noticed my garage door opener on the hood of my car – sliding towards me.  Needless to say it did not stay on the hood for long!  It fell on to the street and smashed into a few pieces.  I was able to stop and retrieve them – all but one piece which I didn’t even realize was missing at that moment.  Amazingly it still works.

I got home, stepped out of my car and heard loud and clearly, coming from the open garage attic window, loud and frequently repeated f— words along with comments about the cigars that were being smoked by a couple of male voices.  I was somehow uninformed that there were going to be guys present for this after party party.  This on top of my garage door opener smashing – well I sent a few people home in short order!

To complete the evening, Grace was not really welcome in her wonderful mood at her sisters party which was going on up in the house loft.  So she went down to the basement to go on MSN.  Patrick, being home, wished to go to sleep(in the basement) since it was now around midnight.  In fact I had gone to bed and the other friends were all in the process of leaving when all hell broke loose downstairs!  The tired brother had an encounter with the angry and grumpy sister!!!

I had about had enough by this time and what with the words passing rapidly between the two kids – and they were some of the most foul words I have ever had to hear – I also exploded! 

The worst part of all this – I am supposed to be an adult and a loving one at that!  I din’t act the part very well.  I have the angry out of control version down pat. Reason at that moment excaped me and I ended up doing things I would rather not do.

I had a lot of appologizing to do this afternoon.  In fact we both shed a few tears and had to do some forgiving of each other.  Appologizing and being forgiven sure feels a lot better than anger.


Filed under Dealing with stuff

Éowyn's Valor

Jeremy Olson has a great blog on the words of Éowyn from LOTR – The Two Towers.

Éowyn states that what she fears most is being caged in so that her life would be lived without valor.


I have just finished seeing the final movie The Return of the King.  I love these stories by Tolkien and have read them to my kids as they were growing up.  The movies capture the story of these books so well that even the pictures developed in my imagination as I read them are not altered a lot. 


I think what we see in LOTR is a common mission – to strike at evil no matter if it costs everything and no matter if the battle is won or lost.  Everyone has their own part they have to play and the success of the mission depends on everyone accomplishing their part in the big story – it is all interlinked.  So you see the people going into battles that would be considered hopeless because they have to try and defeat evil or die in the process.  Dieing is a better fate than becoming evil.  And the ultimate quest of Frodo to destroy the ring is not his alone but belongs to everyone that is fighting evil.  He could not do it without everyone else doing their part.


The integration of stories is maybe seen best in the role of the elves.  The triumph of good with the destruction of the ring will end their existence in Middle Earth.  But it will also allow the life in the Shire to go on in its own good way.


I think we all have our places where God wants us to go.  We could choose to stay in our cages, whatever they are for us, or listen to him and follow him wherever.  I think we, too, are in a long story (to which we know the ending) where we all have our individual parts to play that must be played in order to accomplish what God wants for this world. 


We can be caged in by a lot of things.  Our church institutions can do this to us if we listen to the leaders of them more than to God.  Our human leaders have their own expectations that are not necessarily in sync with God’s plan for our world.  This is a big challenge to those of us who are involved in church leadership.


More than institutions, we cage ourselves when we place ourselves and not God at the centre of our lives.  So we tend to listen to what is good and safe for us and stay in the cages we make.  Like Éowyn we should fear living caged lives with no valor. 



Filed under Day to Day