A Birthday Not Forgotten

Two years ago today our first grandson was born – Logan.  I can still remember the Monday morning, the c-section since he was in distress, the rushing off to the hospital, me telling my staff as I rushed out the door that I was going to the hospital – I had just heard that the baby would be sent by ambulance to Saskatoon and did I want to se him before he left.  I can still remember the tiny long little guy lying in the incubator, tubes everywhere, oxygen tent around his head, touching his little hands since that was about all there was to do.  Then my son coming in he looking so proud and worried and so full of hope that all would be well, prepared to accept the fact that he might be going to  face raising a very handicapped son because he already loved him.

Logan was born with one of those chromosome abnormalities – Trisomy 18 – rare in a child born to young healthy parents;  to a mom who had taken every precaution she could to have a healthy baby.  Trisomy 18 is not compatible with life.  Logan’s life was short – two days.  Two days that changed our relationship with our kids forever.  We saw our son become more of a man as he became a father and had to deal with birth and death all within a few short days.  And we saw our son loving and supporting the woman who bore him this child through this grief. 

Now we have a second grandson three months old.  And another joy for us – one month from today we have a wedding going on! 

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5 responses to “A Birthday Not Forgotten

  1. Toni

    Hi Linea. Is that wedding news? I’m glad your grandson is doing well.

    You have an experience advantage over us at the moment. Our children aren’t old enough to marry yet (although they’re both capable of producing children – not a comfortable thought when you have a daughter). Sarah has been doing some homework where she was asked to list the 5 most important things in a marriage partner. She and Chris came up with pretty much the same things independently, although worded somewhat differently.

    They have both just embarked on relationships with non-christians, which doesn’t especially please us. However they are now at the age where we can offer guidance, rather that rules, and hope (and pray) they listen.

  2. Linea

    Yeah, we didn’t and wouldn’t have chosen this way for life to run for our kids. But we can’t make their choices for them either. God has them safely in his hands and first and foremost they have to have a relationship with him. Lots of praying has been going on, and is going on. Results of that prayer are beginning to show. Most of all we have learned through all of this to really love our son and his fiance. The grandson we have now – well he’s so perfect – doesn’t take much effort to love him!

  3. Sharon

    I had forgotten this was Logan’s birthday but I too, remember that day very well. Another example of God using our grief as an agent to lead and comfort…….my prayers continue on for this dear and beautiful family – how we love them too! We are all looking forward to the wedding – the celebration that comes from the miracle of two becoming one……..yiiipppppeeeeeee

  4. Toni

    Well, prayer has interesting effects. Ben’s GF decided she really fancied someone else, so he’s feeling cut up about that.

    Look ladies, a good looking Christian teenage guy that will commit!

  5. Linea

    I think God takes care of things for us when we pray but too often we get anxious and want to intervene on our own. He told us not to worry didn’t he – but we want everything now on our terms!